Pastor’s Wife Appreciation

Pastor’s Wife Appreciation – What Is It? 

Although the pastor’s wife does not do the work of a pastor, she has a complimentary vital role to play in the ministry as well. Your pastor and his wife, are a team yoked together by God to care for His flock. He is the face of the ministry, the voice of guidance to the congregation, the spiritual leader of a parish amongst other roles. His wife is the quiet, stalwart supporter and a helper. Her role in the ministry enables her husband to be the best Pastor he can be to his flock. As a church, you can appreciate how much she has impacted in your lives. This is why I believe it is important for every church to have a pastor’s wife appreciation day, week or month. 

Pastor’s Wife Appreciation Ideas.

For a time, as important as your pastor’s wife appreciation, choosing an ideal way to express your gratitude to her can be tough. The first thing you should have in mind is this: Your pastor’s wife is just as human and as feminine as any other female created by God. She has emotions, a unique personality and needs as well. Your gift should be something that speaks to her personally and her status as the mother of the church. If you are unsure of what to get for her, talk to her friends, family or even her husband. Their ideas will help you get an idea of what she loves or her needs at the moment

Some great gift ideas for your pastor’s wife appreciation are:

Paid Tickets to Women’s Conference or Retreat:

Amongst the options of gifts for female pastors, this is a very thoughtful one. Attending a women’s conference or spiritual retreat may be out of her budget or the church’s. You can take up the expenses as a gift to her. 

Poetry & Short Notes on a Crystal or Wooden Plaque:

 This is a heartfelt and very sincere way of expressing gratitude to the ministry of your pastor’s wife. Words go a long way in the heart of a woman. Writing these words on paper or in text message, are not just ideal options. You can carve them on a wooden plaque. Capturing them in an elegant optical crystal is an option most preferred.

Offer to do something nice and personal for her.

You can offer to babysit, allowing her to have a date-night with her husband. You can do some of these as well:

  • Giving her a spa treatment
  • Free hair, manicure, and pedicure treatment
  • Taking her out to lunch and spending some time with her.
  • Organizing meals for a week for her just to give her a break.
Help make holidays special for her family.

Holidays are consumed with church services and all kinds of programs. This gives your pastor and his family little or no time to spend time together. Your assistant pastor can take charge of activities for the holiday. Doing this will allow your pastor take time off with his wife and children. You can;

  • Ask her for a list and purchase everything she needs for the children’s Easter baskets or Christmas stockings.
  • Offer to wrap her gifts or decorate her tree.
Love Gifts:

Your gift should be a sincere expression of love, not just a cheap token. Bear in mind that your pastor’s wife has sacrificed a lot of time and effort on the church’s behalf. Some great ideas include:

  • Purchasing clothes, shoes, bags or whatever you think she needs.
  • Your church can contribute towards purchasing her a car or giving her old car a new look.
  • You can find out what household appliances she may need and purchase it.
Know this…

Little acts of love count. Respect her as the mother of the ministry, do not neglect to appreciate her efforts as often as you can. Pastor’s wives can be very lonely people and they may be struggling with a things that the church and her husband do not know about. Be her friend by standing in the gap for her in the place of prayer.


Honouring your pastor’s wife is biblical. Do not just make your pastor’s wife appreciation a one-day thing. Appreciate her every other day of the year as well. God put her in that place of authority for a purpose. Without her, your pastor wouldn’t have an appropriate support system. Be a blessing to her.

Galatians 6:6 The Message (MSG)

Be very sure now, you who have been trained to a self-sufficient maturity, that you enter into a generous common life with those who have trained you, sharing all the good things that you have and experience. 

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